Your Worst Nightmare

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A gorgeous, problem-free wedding. Photo by Christina Klas Photography

You’ve just walked down the aisle...the music is amazing, your love is standing there looking at you with adoration, tears are welling in your eyes...
but you suddenly realize you’re not wearing your veil!
Your bridesmaids don’t have their bouquets!
And one of the groomsmen is definitely drunk.
What a nightmare!

I know you’re thinking ‘this can’t possibly all happen’, but do you really want any of them to happen?

I have seen each of these and other frustrating things on wedding days.
I’ve seen a family have to suddenly figure out how to put together flowers because the florist had the wrong date.
I’ve seen a caterer go AWOL because they stepped out for a snack, but then the timeline suddenly changed.
I’ve seen brides getting pestered with questions about decor and timeline.
I’ve seen tired fathers cleaning up at the end.

Weddings can be stressful and hectic!  Photo by Jessica Uhler

Weddings can be stressful and hectic! Photo by Jessica Uhler

All of these scary, stressful problems can be avoided by hiring a professional wedding coordinator!
A coordinator has your back, girl! She’ll make sure all the details are happening, all the vendors know what’s going on, and keep you happy!

Now, I’ve seen weddings with professional coordinators, with family or friends running things, and with seemingly nobody in charge. Most weddings do go well, and sometimes it does come down to the personalities of the couple and family...some people just don’t stress details and don’t care about timing and any problems just aren’t problems.

They said ‘I do” and that was all that mattered! However, the weddings with coordinators and planners always feel so much calmer, so much more relaxed...there’s excitement and anticipation, but it’s not stress.

Wedding goals!!  Relaxed and calm.  Photo by Something Minted Photography

Wedding goals!! Relaxed and calm. Photo by Something Minted Photography

Whether they are called a planner or coordinator...they are there to help you! Planning and organizing a wedding can be a full time job, and yes, maybe you are super organized, and yes, some of it is fun! Maybe you even have an aunt, sister, or friend who would love to help you.

But just think about how you want to remember the day. Your wedding day. Do you want to be running around solving problems? Do you want to be worrying if your family member is really in control or just wants to dance the night away? You might be great at throwing a party, but this is probably the biggest of your life and you will be grateful at the end for some help.

A pro is a professional...they know what they are doing! It’s their job. They have checklists, superpower brains, Plan Bs, Plan Cs, major experience, and above all, massive amounts of patience. There’s a huge learning curve to running a wedding and I’m assuming you only want to do this once! Do yourself a favor and hire a coordinator!

An awesome planner can help you get this shot!   Photo by Lenaig Delisle Photography.  Coordination by Ruby Red Shoes.

An awesome planner can help you get this shot!
Photo by Lenaig Delisle Photography. Coordination by Ruby Red Shoes.

I see many coordinators at Events on 6th, and they sure do help keep everything on schedule and running smoothly and calmly! In future posts I’m going to introduce you to a few fabulous wedding planners/coordinators that I know and who will do an amazing job for you!

Meanwhile I asked a few for some advice on reasons to hire a coordinator. They mentioned many things, but one theme came through loud and clear...do you want to enjoy the best day of your life or spend it stressing the details?

Katrina from Love Blooms says that just being able to relax and enjoy your day is the biggest reason.

“You don’t have to worry about setting anything up, paying attention to the schedule, answering questions from vendors or family, or solving problems when they come up. Let a pro be in charge of all the many moving pieces of the day so that you can enjoy the experience of getting married!” — Katrina

Rosalynn from My Perfect Wedding Assistant stresses the importance of focusing on yourselves and your relationship, both throughout the planning process and the wedding day, which is truly easier when a coordinator is helping with the planning process.

“Do not get so swept away in planning your perfect wedding that you get swept away from quality time with your sweetheart! Make time together a priority. Be creative! Be yourself! Have fun! And then hand that off to a coordinator that can put your personality and charm into action. Your coordinator will have your back! Trust your coordinator, your loved ones, and those taking care of you on your big day and have some fun! Enjoy this day. Dance, eat cake, laugh with family, catch up with friends and hold your spouse close. Every part of this day is for you two.”— Rosalynn

Debbie at Ruby Red Shoes Weddings & Events emphasizes how having someone there for you every step of the way means you and your guests will enjoy a lovely and special wedding day.

“Having a professional who is organized, reliable, calm, and passionate about your wedding details and designs means a day that could be hectic and frenzied is actually relaxing, enjoyable, and worry-free. You can be an honored guest at your own wedding! You will not have to worry about a thing!”— Debbie

Your wedding planner knows the best time to do this!  Photo by Alex J Everett

Your wedding planner knows the best time to do this! Photo by Alex J Everett

Here are a few other reasons to hire a coordinator:

1. Your time is valuable!

You’re working, you’re in school, you’re living life with family and friends...adding in the full-time job of wedding planning is just one more thing--ok, a million more things! Decide the things you want to spend time on planning your wedding, or just free up your time to enjoy it all and pay someone to do the nitty gritty.

2. Budget!

Yep, planners cost money. And wedding spending can get seriously out of control. A planner can help stop the spigot. Obviously you have to pay her, but over and over I hear...’It was worth it!’ They know vendors, they know how to save money...and they are saving you time. Do what you are good at to make money and pay her to do what she is good at.

A perfect end to a perfect day!  Photo by RC Media

A perfect end to a perfect day! Photo by RC Media

3. Problem Solving

Are family members trying to make the wedding their own? Planners can be a great buffer between you and them and they will fight for your vision all day long. They are there to solve any problems, making the day stress-free as possible! (You’re still going to feel butterflies, excitement, and nervousness, but not planning stress!)

4. Save your Brain!

There are so many details leading up to and on a wedding day! What do you want your brain full of? Probably not your schedule, your vendors, things you’ve maybe forgotten, or if you’re following the rules of the contracts you’ve signed. HARD PASS!

Laugh with your friends! Talk with your out-of-town guests, hug your family, get pampered! Drink a cocktail and enjoy the entire day. It’s amazing and goes by in an instant, so enjoy it!

Happy, calm, and ENJOYING HER AMAZING WEDDING DAY!  Photo by Ink & Grain

Happy, calm, and ENJOYING HER AMAZING WEDDING DAY! Photo by Ink & Grain

So, follow along the next weeks as I introduce you to some amazing planners. Consider meeting up with a few of them before you decide who to hire--it’s great to have someone you click with!

Having someone by your side, helping you plan and bringing your wedding vision to reality is one of the best wedding decisions you’ll make. Skip the stress, get some help, and enjoy the experience of getting married!

Reduce Your Choices, Reduce Your Overwhelm! (or One Simple Way to Keep Your Brain Sane While Wedding Planning)

A perfect setting (unless you like something else…)   Photo by Ink And Grain

A perfect setting (unless you like something else…)
Photo by Ink And Grain

Congratulations!! You’re engaged, you’re ecstatic, and it’s all pretty awesome right now!
The ring, the happy friends and family, the sweet love-of-your life...you’re on cloud 9!

So...how does something so fun and amazing become so stressful?
Planning a wedding is super fun, but it can be like a full-time job, right?
And while you’re loving all things wedding right now, it can get pretty overwhelming.

So. Done. With. Planning.  Photo By Jessica Uhler

So. Done. With. Planning. Photo By Jessica Uhler

That’s where a preferred vendor list can really come in handy. Your venue probably has one, and it’s a great way to reduce some stress. Events on 6th has a preferred caterer list, a preferred florist, and then many suggestions for your other vendors like coordinators/planners, DJs, photographers, and musicians.

I know, you’re thinking, but Lesley, I want to see all the things and weigh all my options...
I want my day to be PERFECT, and I don’t want to miss out on anything!

This aisle at the store brings me to my knees. I just want some toothpaste.

This aisle at the store brings me to my knees. I just want some toothpaste.

Yes...I get it, but wading through so many things and having to make so many decisions will wear you down and for some couples, the planning just becomes too much and what’s supposed to be exciting and happy becomes a chore.

Giving yourself some limits, like choosing from a preferred list of vendors can really help reduce the stress. You only have so much brain space; save it for the fun stuff!

So calm, so relaxed…clearly they chose from the preferred list!  Photo by Something Minted Photography

So calm, so relaxed…clearly they chose from the preferred list!
Photo by Something Minted Photography

There is a difference between a preferred list and a required vendor list. Some venues require you use a certain caterer and only that caterer, and some offer a choice between a few.


A preferred list will have flexibility, so you’d be able to choose a vendor not on the list, likely for an additional fee. So if you’re really feeling the desire to search far and wide for the best photographer ever, you can still do that! Focus on the things you really really want perfection in. :)

Venues offer preferred lists because they want your wedding day to be amazing. They see wedding after wedding, and they see which vendors are great at what they do. They aren’t going to recommend someone who’s going to do a bad job. Let your venue do some vetting for you!

So, reduce your choices, reduce your overwhelm and get back to fun and happy and over-the-moon!

No more decisions and over-the-moon!  Photo by Mayfield Photo and Film

No more decisions and over-the-moon!
Photo by Mayfield Photo and Film

Stay tuned for a series of interviews, where you can learn more about the fantastic Events on 6th vendors. Reduce all the choices you have to make and consider the vendors on our preferred list!

First will be our preferred Florist, Katrina at Love Blooms. You’ll learn about her and her mad skills, and later, I’ll help you meet several wonderful planners/coordinators.

Interested in a wedding at Events on 6th? Come on in for a tour!

Photo by Something Minted Photography

Photo by Something Minted Photography